Yes, if you are reading this. This is for you. Just accept it. You know this is for you.
1. Don’t date anyone with “fluid” values. “Fluid” meaning prone to change; not permanent.
First of all, they have no idea what they are doing in life. These are the type of people who complain and have an opinion about everything but don’t have any real results in their own personal life. They don’t really have valuable assets or achievements they have attained or created from themselves or for themselves. I think that was a run-on sentence but this is the internet so it doesn’t really matter. These people are usually very needy and not really committed to anything. They are the type of people who you don’t really know if they are telling the truth. Those type of people are terrible friends and even worse lovers. Just stay away. Remember the leadership quote “Never commit to someone uncommitted.” You need someone with conviction. Someone solid. You need someone predictable. You know what they would do in various circumstances because of the principles and values they live by. Like your parents. In fact, look for someone like your favorite parent. They love you. They are loyal. You already know what’s going to happen if you fight, do something nice, lie, or whatever. “Fabian, what do I do if my parents have ‘fluid’ values?” Honestly? Pick your favorite friend’s parents. They don’t belong to you but they did raise your bestie.
2. Don’t date someone to escape loneliness, boredom, or because you know they will pay for stuff for you.
You’re a jerk if you do any of these. This doesn’t mean you can’t go on a date. Just don’t lead them on if they are seriously interested in you. Trying to escape loneliness by being with someone you don’t really like or are not really interested in just reminds you that you don’t really want to be there. In fact, it also reminds you, you don’t even know where you should be at the moment. Don’t play with people’s feelings. They bite back. Yikes.
3. Don’t look for the perfect person.
Become the perfect person. You want someone good looking? Work out and don’t be a flojo. You want somebody smart? Graduate and get a degree. Graduates tend to hang out with each other. You want somebody rich? Start your own business and become financially independent because the less money your true love has to spend on you the more money your true love has. Stay out of debt. Rich people know a good investment and if you’re in some serious debt. Guess what? You’re not a good investment. You want a church bae? Stay off dating apps. Cochinos. Go to church. Fall in love with Jesus. Jesus is the perfect human. If you hang out with a perfect human, you will slowly become closer to that standard. This makes you influential and influential makes you attractive. Jesus, in you, that is a beautiful thing.